My Favorite Kiss

I loved this vacation

When I came back from Iraq in 2010, my gift from me to me was a cruise to the Carribean. I had never been on a cruise, and I was so happy I was alive; I treated myself. I paid for a balcony suite and went to as many amenities and outings as I could. However, I went alone.

The vacation was on the second to last week in September the week of my birthday, and none in my family could take time off to celebrate with me, but I did not let that deter me from my fun. I went alone and had fun swimming with dolphins in Honduras, scuba diving in Beliz, and went swimming with stingrays in the Cayman Islands.

So, I say to you all, if you want to have fun. Go out and have fun. Do not wait for others to start the fun. Life is awesome. There are so many amazing things out on this planet. Do not wait.

Have a blessed day.

I Woke Counting my Every Blessing

Wow, I am a blessed woman

I am a blessed woman. I am blessed from the moment I wake to the moment it is time to sleep. Every day, I struggle with mental illness, and every day, I wake with the blessing of a new day to count the good things in my life.

I am thankful for my Jesus Christ. I am thankful for my family. I am thankful for my dog, Dexter. I am thankful I was born in the United States. This country is amazing. It is full of amazing people that do little big things every day. I am thankful for the people that cook a meal for the homeless. And for the pizza delivery man that calls the cops on a man that he sees abusing his daughters. For the martial arts students that run after a man that tries to carjack a car. For the farmer that wakes early to save his crops and the fireman that lifts heavy weights, and takes care for his family, and leaves them to go and do his dangerous job.

I am counting my little blessings. My beautiful blessings are my niece Mia and my nephew Deenie, and my Juliet, and Amalia that are my goddaughters and the loves of my heart. I wake and remember I have food in my cupboard and water well. I thank God for the lullaby he gave me, and I added in one of my books. A lullaby for my child that is waiting for me in heaven. I have so many blessings, I can’t count. I was blessed and am blessed, and I am waiting for a big blessing that will come soon.

So today, I say count your blessings. Much love.

Choose to Look at Life with Lens of Blessings

A Mantis with White eyes became my blessing

This picture was taken in August 2011. I was part of a NATO training in Moldova. I was in my capacity as the 21st Theater Sustainment Command, Command Surgeon, and Environmental Scientist. I was doing my job and giving some ideas to a Belgium crew when this beautiful white eye Mantis stood on the shoulders of the woman I was talking. The woman got all scared when she noticed it, but I calmed her and saved the life of this beauty.

I am so proud of this picture because that Mantis posed for this picture. She just stood there and let the photographer fidget with the camera for about 5 minutes, and she stood there like nothing. Finally, the gentleman that wasn’t afraid of the mantis took the picture.

I remember that day. I was in pain. It was a week after I had to do a series of early morning workouts and running. And my body was sore, I had been on my feet for long hours in this training, and I had been part of simulations. But that simple Mantis made my day. I was still in pain, and I had to work until late that night, but that mantis stayed on my shoulder for a good hour after that picture was taken. I felt blessed. 

That day I chose to look at life with a different lens. You should too and you will see that many times blessings do come to you every day. 

Choose to have a great and wonderful day, be blessed.

Don’t Let Trolls Take your Happy Away

Yesterday, I received an email from a friend, and she told me how sad she was because a troll insulted her for no apparent reason. Many times, people think that because the internet is so impersonal they can say anything they want, and they forget on the receiving end, there is a person with feelings.

I became sad for my friend, and here is my response. Do not let trolls take your Happy away. I think most times these people are just upset with others or even themselves and they only take their frustration with a to them invisible person. Please, Trolls, look at this song and do not let life take your happiness away and before you hit send, read the email and if you received an email like that it offends you, then rewrite with kinder words.

I love this song. I sing this song often. I sang this song when I was in love. I sang this song at the most amazing moments. So, if I sing this song at the moment when I get hurt like by a Troll, It helps bring my happy back. I say try it. Pharrell Williams was and is a genius singer to come up with this song. And I want to say thank you.

Have a blessed day

The Five Writing Mistakes I Made and Found Out About When the Second Copyeditor Worked on My Novel.

In a previous blog I wrote about the costly mistakes I made when I self-published my first book. In that article I wrote about my lack of attention to detail, poor research and my impatience. This article I will concentrate on the five things I learn while having the wrong Copyeditor and what it is to be having the copyeditor that works best with you. 

In the case of the Copyeditor, their function is basically to review your manuscript and correct it for readability, fitness for its purpose, accuracy, free vocabulary, some inconsistencies of names and numbers, fact finding, and repetitions of sentences. Having said this I’ll go into the five things I learn when I went from having a Copyeditor that did not work well with me and another that did.

The things I leaned were, some of my characters lacked a unique Voice, I lacked a steady pace, I lost my readers, head hopping, and I didn’t listen. So, I will go one by one and I will tell you what happened and I will assume all my responsibility for my own actions. I am a big girl, retired Army Officer. I know how to be accountable.

Unique Voice

So, I wrote my story and I was proud of my first-born novel. And like every parent, you can’t see when the kid is ugly as a kick at midnight. If you read my first blog you will see I had two copyeditors one was okay the other is great. The okay editor did not tell me that my novel needed the literary version of orthodontic braces. My characters although they were not flat, some needed to have a unique voice. I have made the mistake of writing a multitude of characters and because I needed to do some heavy worldbuilding in the story I sacrificed adding that special something to some of the characters. I didn’t even notice until my second editor pointed out when she read the story as a beta reader even before she took on the book as a line-copyeditor.

Steady Pace

I lacked a Steady pace throughout the story. This is something that a developmental editor will let you know. However, the developmental editor I hired did not point it out but my line-copyeditor did mention and I had to make adjustments. My story was poorly divided. It had a crazy partition of events and I did not follow the 3 act structure in storytelling, because of that the story was broken in pieces and the pace wasn’t sequential. Either people love the story or hate the story, and many times the people that hate the story is because are not used to the jumping from one sequence of events to another, I wish people would give it a try and continue reading to the second book, that is where things start to blend. But that story is already published and now is too late to make a first impression. 

I Lost My Readers

I lost my readers and I blame myself. They got lost in the multitude of side plots that make the whole of the story. My Copyeditor pointed out that I managed very eloquently to lose my reader in the development of this very large story. I wasn’t successful in presenting a story that had a multiple character living thing at the same time that in the end were relevant to end in this final event. 

So, in my impetus I came short. In reality, the intent was to tell a story as if it was a group of friends telling a story or showing a story and all have a unique perspective of what happened. But I failed in a megalithic way. This is the reason why you need to find the right editor to work with you and your manuscript.

Head Hopping

This is a cardinal sin. I did not know I was head hopping until it was pointed out to me by my copyeditor. Again, this is something a Developmental Editor will pick up and mention, but it went unmentioned. Now there are many copies of my book with this issue. As much as I want to go back and fix the head hopping or going from the point of view of one character to the point of view of another within the same section, I can’t go back and do this. Maybe in the future, I’ll create a third edition of the book and I correct these errors. However, all I can do now is move forward and learn from my mistakes.  I made this mistake because I did not do my research and study the art of writing and thought writing a book was as easy as a walk in the park. 

I did not Listen

The worst mistake I made was that I did not listen to good advice. I know I should have waited and polished my manuscript until it was in a better shape to be published. However, I was full of myself, stubborn and did not listen when I was told to wait. Many times, we just want to see our work in print and we cut corners. Some of us think because we are English teachers or took many English courses in college we can write well and don’t need an editor. For some of us writers we are in a budget and affording an editor is an expense. But I will tell you, that it is an expense that will pay off if you find one that work well with you.

Final words

I learned many other things in the process of publishing my first book. And I have many pet peeves and one of them is when I hear people say oh this happen to you but it is not your fault. Well, if you read this and decided to make the same mistakes I did, then it will be all your fault. In the end, the way you can go about to avoid these mistakes is by educating yourself. Do your homework. Read books on creative writing and style, revise your work, find a beta reader and most importantly find the Editor that works with you and is willing to listen to you and you are ready to listen to him or her.

 In the next I’ll write about what I do when I get writers block.